about what Joseph must have been feeling and thinking? He didn’t want to embarrass Mary and make matters worse than they probably appeared – her being pregnant and not married – so he was willing to just to “divorce her quietly” (Matthew 1:19)
“But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord
appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”
Matthew 1:20-21
I wonder if Joseph ever thought, “What have I gotten myself into?” Yet, like us, once we yield our will to His will and His plans…things work out OK. Were there tears? I am sure there were. Was there sorrow? Without a doubt. Was there pain and suffering? We know there was. Joseph was Jesus’ earthly father…I believe he loved Jesus as much as I love my son and just as much as you, dear readers, love your children – provided you have children. Can you just imagine what he felt? He knew this child was going to be special.
Strange indeed…yet He IS the Messiah!
As for my accounting test…I didn’t do as well as I had hoped, yet I got one of the highest grades in the class. That isn’t saying much when the highest grade was 69! But, it is what it is…I did my best and will go over a few things to try and make sure I understand them before moving on to Accounting II in the spring. I will for sure get a “C” in the class, possibly a “B”…we shall see. The grades are not posted until December 28th.
Today is my last day of work until I return after the break in mid-January. I am so behind in what needs done around the house, I don’t think I can get it all done in the four weeks I have off, but I will need to make a list and get started soon!
Lord, thank you for bringing me to the end of the semester. Thank you for the situations you brought me through and for the lessons I learned – both academically and in life. You have been with me every step of the way – through the good and the bad. Thank you for the blessings you have given me, not the least of which is my new job that I love. Thank you for the people that I have met, Lord, please help me to be a light for you in this world…in this dark and dreary world – I am so thankful that you are The Light. Thank you, Lord, for Joseph and his willingness to follow you, even when it seemed so strange. Thank you for the courage he had, please Lord, give me that kind of courage, to follow you and your will even when it doesn’t make sense, when it feels strange. Please bless my family Lord, those reading this blog, my friends and those for whom I have promised to pray…Lord, you and I know who they are, please be with them in a special way today. Comfort those who are grieving during this season Lord, it can be so hard this time of year. Thank you Lord for this opportunity to share my thoughts, Lord.
I've often thought on the very thing you've mentioned here this morning, Mary. Joseph was quite an honorable man…no doubt hand picked by God, just as Mary was.
Congratulations on having one of the highest scores on your accounting test. I would think that would be an extremely difficult class for me.
Enjoy your month break and try not to overdo with the things on your list.
Hey, I am hoping that professor grades on the curve. If he/she does, maybe you will make a really good grade since yours was one of the highest grades.
I really loved your post today, Mary and especially the prayer.
Hoping you get everything done that NEEDS to be done and a lot of "want to get dones."
I think of Joseph often and pray to him each day. He must have felt the weight of the world on his shoulders at times in protecting the Messiah. He is certainly an example for all of our earthly fathers of today. Thank you for your post.
In what seems like the blink of an eye, it is 31 years later. Not a day goes by that I do not think of her.
My heart still hurts.
I cry at random times.
And I miss her. Still. 31 years later.
I grieve all the things that didn`t happen.
The relationships.
The life events.
Strangely though there are fewer tears today. Sometimes I think my tears are all gone. The well is dry.
Lack of tears does not mean lack of grief. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. So I accept my emotions today-whatever they may be.
If you know someone that has experienced a loss, don`t be afraid to tell them you remember. Let them know you care. Take a meal, send a text, write and snail mail a card. We want to know our loss is not forgotten.
I cried in church. Not because I was thinking about the events leading up to the crucifixion but because there was a little girl of about 5 or so sitting in front of me. She had the most gorgeous dark hair. With streaks of gold running through it. Natural streaks. Not the artificial colored streaks I pay more than I`m willing to share to get every few months.
As I observed her I thought about my own daughter. The one that died at 4 days old.
I thought of how she might be standing next to me this morning or next Sunday on Easter. Maybe she would have travelled to Charlotte to spend some time with her dad and me.
Grief is something that robs us of so much. It robs me of not just my daughter but it robs me of being the mom of a daughter.
I look at some of my closest friends, all mothers of daughters and I envy, yes ENVY!, the relationships they all have with their daughters. They may not agree with them on all things or see eye-to-eye with them but the daughters lead the charge to throw surprise 60th birthday parties for their parents or make sure that mom gets a Mother`s Day card, a birthday card, etc.
I think daughters are different than sons. Daughters are more sensitive than sons based on my observations as an outsider. I do not experience that sensitivity. And I grieve the fact that I am not the mother of a daughter.
The version of me before Amy`s death is totally different than the me that is here now.
If you want to read more about about my daughter, Amy, you can go to https://marybonner.net/?s=Amy and read more about my journey through infant loss and moving forward.
Adam McHugh`s book Blood From a Stone is a beautiful piece of writing about returning from the dead. I encourage you to check it out. You can find the book on Amazon or wherever books are sold. Find and follow him @adammchughwine You won`t be sorry.
"Grief is so agonizing not only because you have lost something, but you have lost someone, and that someone is the version of you that was alive before your loss." Blood From a Stone Adam McHugh Page 102
Every June I think I`m going to handle this better. Whatever better looks like - I don`t know. 30 years and I still cry at random times. And every June I fall apart.
She would have been 30 next week. Instead of whisking her off for a 30th birthday trip to Key West like we did for her brother @coach_andy_bonner or Niagara Falls like we did for his wife we will make another kind of trip.
There will be a mass next Saturday and we will stand at a grave site as we move her body from the small town where she was buried to a final resting place by her paternal grandparents on the beautiful grounds of St Emma Monastery in Greensburg, PA.
I look forward to the weekend and I dread it all at the same time.
Today I broke down and sobbed. Just like yesterday. And probably will tomorrow. But I remember that He catches my tears in a bottle Psalm 56:8
If I learned anything from this life experience, it is this: I can do hard things. But not of my own strength. Philippians 4:13
When I tell people that I am a VA (Virtual Assistant) often they want to know what I DO. And I tell them that I mostly deal with details. Managing the things (details) that creative people do not see themselves as “good at.” Budgets, remembering dates, creating schedules and timelines, gathering data and information, making sure they get paid, etc. A few years ago, I took on my first social media influencer client. And after working for 5 years with only faith-based clients, social media was a different world! I learned how to navigate that world and now my social media clients are among my favorites. In fact, I let go of most of my other clients to allow more time to work with the influencers. One of the faith-based clients I kept is @kriscamealy of @refineretreat
I have known Kris for 10 years and worked with her on Refine for, I don’t know…maybe 6. Kris recognizes the importance of rest and soul-care that enables us to create better and more meaningful content. Allows us to be more present for our families, clients, and our businesses.
Whether we are writing in our journal, painting on a canvas, creating paid content for a social media outlet, sitting at a pottery wheel, whatever the creative outlet we must tend to our souls. We must rest. We must learn to pause.
#Soulcare is not optional in this world in which we live. We must learn to stop so that we are able to go. We can run at a break-neck, full-tilt speed for a while but at some point, we will crash.
If you are looking for a way to slow down and take a weekend to care for yourself and your soul, check out @refineretreat. Maybe Refine isn’t for you. That is ok. But if you think this only applies to faith-based work, check out @lindsaynead ‘s post from April 19. Lindsay is an amazing businesswoman and she recognizes the power of slowing down. Of stopping. Of resting. She took a break and found herself better for it.
Leroy left us today. He was diagnosed with Lymphoma 4 weeks ago tomorrow. I miss him so much. Some early photos are in my stories. He was THE BEST DOG! And he had a good life. He was SPOILED rotten. At times I think @coach_andy_bonner thought Leroy was treated better than Andy when he was home.
I've often thought on the very thing you've mentioned here this morning, Mary. Joseph was quite an honorable man…no doubt hand picked by God, just as Mary was.
Congratulations on having one of the highest scores on your accounting test. I would think that would be an extremely difficult class for me.
Enjoy your month break and try not to overdo with the things on your list.
Merry Christmas, Mary.
Hey, I am hoping that professor grades on the curve. If he/she does, maybe you will make a really good grade since yours was one of the highest grades.
I really loved your post today, Mary and especially the prayer.
Hoping you get everything done that NEEDS to be done and a lot of "want to get dones."
Loving you,
D.
I think of Joseph often and pray to him each day. He must have felt the weight of the world on his shoulders at times in protecting the Messiah. He is certainly an example for all of our earthly fathers of today. Thank you for your post.
Great job on your exam!
Merry Christmas, Mary!