I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14
You’re Already Amazing
Embracing Who You Are,
Becoming All God Created You to Be
From the opening line on page 11,
“Psst…pull up a chair and I’ll tell you a secret. You’d better lean in close for this one.
Ready?
You don’t have to do more, be more, have more.” I was hooked.
What is she talking about? Isn’t this whole world about women having to do it ALL. Be the best we can be? Have a career, children, house, money in the bank…did Holley miss the newsflash?
NO! She reminds us throughout this book that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” that we are His daughters and THAT is enough. But she doesn’t just tell us this in the book, she gives us concrete steps that we can take to find our strengths and ask questions that will encourage us to look deep within ourselves to find the answers.
She reminds us that we need to let God be the driver of life’s car. “If you’re driven, you can’t be led.” page 90
God created us all in His image. He created us how he wants us to be. God doesn’t have a “plan B” for our lives. page 125 This was an “eye opener” for me. What? No “plan B”…I always have a plan B, after all, plan A could fail. But using the steps given in her book, I can find my strengths, learn ways to use them and be all that He wants me to be…without a “plan B.” She goes on to say “We’re amazing not because of who we are but because of who lives within us.” page 127
One of my favorite parts of the book, a section that REALLY made a difference for me begins on page 137. Here Holley reminds us that while we read in Luke 12:48 “…For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required;…” this is referring to things given to us by the Master. Many of the requirements I put on myself are not from the Master, they are MY expectations or what I believe others expect of me. I am not required to meet the expectations of others and neither are you. I am only required to meet the expectations of my Master. My Master is the one who gave his life for him, the Lord Jesus Christ.
She talks about what hinders us from running our race. page 146
She shares the “Do What You Can Plan.” page 152 I am REALLY lovin’ that!
She tells us that “God gave us grace for a reason-he knew we’d need it.” page 155
The last two chapters just might be the best in the book…and you’ll have to check them out for yourself. *smile*
God has a great plan for my life and for your life. Holley shares how to find the plan, how to implement the plan and how to live the plan. I feel like the book changed my life.
Holley Gerth is an incredibly gifted writer. She speaks from her heart and you can feel her travelling this road with you. It is like you are having a cup of coffee and eating a brownie with her in you favorite coffee shop. She has walked the road of not being “enough” and now shares with us, how to avoid some of the pitfalls.
I encourage to read this book. Dayspring has it for $9.00. I believe the sale runs through the end of March. You can get it at Amazonand a kindle version is available. It is also available directly fromRevell Publishing.
At the Relevant Conference in October 2011, I had the opportunity to meet a lot of wonderful people…and connect with some wonderful organizations that sponsored the conference. One of those organizations was Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan. The Revell representatives gave all attendees the opportunity to sign-up for book reviews. I left my name, e-mail address and I think my blog address never expecting to hear from them, after all, I have a small blog. Imagine my surprise when I received an e-mail in January from a representative asking if I was interested in reviewing Holley Gerth’s new book. Well, naturally, I said YES! I am SO GLAD I signed that sheet of paper last October!
The publisher sent me the book in exchange for a review.
I am not required to give a positive review all opinions
expressed in this review are my own.
If you do nothing else for yourself this year, BUY AND READ this book!
Better yet, enter my give away! I am buying two copies of this book from Dayspring to give away. This book is THAT GOOD.
Leave a comment on this post telling me why you would like to win a copy and I’ll randomly choose two winners. Be sure to include your e-mail address in your comment. You may have two additional entries by tweeting about this giveaway and/or posting on facebook about this blog post and giveaway. Come back here and leave an additional comment for your tweet and/or FB post. The drawing closes at midnight EST, Monday, March 19, 2012.
Great review, Mary. I am downloading it to my Kindle today.
Holley got married in the Mildred Cooper chapel here in Arkansas. If you get a chance sometimes, revisit one of my weekend worships featuring this chapel–it is so beautiful.
Dianne, can you give me the link to the weekend worship post for Mildred Cooper Chapel? I checked the Weekend Worship page on your blog and couldn't find it.
You don't have to enter me to win–I got a copy, too! I just wanted to drop by and say, "Didn't you do a nice job!" There were so many quotable pieces in Holley's book. I had such a hard time whittling down my list!
Thank you, Nancy! You kind words mean so much to me! I was so incredibly nervous that I wouldn't do a "good enough" job – kind of ironic, considering the book, don't you think?!? I prayed about it and this where He led me.
I'd like to be entered to win a copy of this book. I often feel like I have to be more or do more to be who I'm supposed to be. I know better, but still struggle. Thanks! Stacy writingbyhart[at]gmail[dot]com
Hi Mary, wonderful review of Holley's book…totally makes me want to read it…I had to smile at the quote about how if you're driven, you can't be led…so true…I am slowly learning to led and less driven…Blessings to you 🙂
I got the book a few days ago, and opened to a page somewhere in the 150s. What I read there was SUCH a big blessing to me! And it was just a random sentence on a random page! But we all know it wasn't random at all, right?
(No need to enter me in your amazingly generous drawing. Your book review was stellar!)
This books sounds really good. I love reading reviews about books! I'm a missionary in Tanzania and books help keep me fed spiritually. servingintz[at]gmail[dot]com
Hi Mary, I knew I wanted to read this book, and your great review makes me want to read it even more! I host online studies on my blog and I've been thinking "You're Already Amazing" might be the book we read this fall.
Thanks for commenting on my blog today, that's how I found you. 🙂
Hi Mary, I found you via Laura Rath's tweet and am so glad I did! I've read so many reviews of this book — I know I want to read it — and I must say I really enjoyed your review! loved the quotes you chose and the thought you put into it. So fun to "meet" you and thank you thank you for the wonderful chance to win a book so I can start reading right away! 🙂 All for Him, Nikki
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In what seemed like the blink of an eye, those young 20 somethings were married for 41 years.
The second photo was taken last year on our 40th anniversary. I didn`t post it because I didn`t like the way my legs looked. Something happened in the last year and I`m reminded that those legs have carried me for 62 years (when the photo was taken). Carried me through 3 pregnancies that gifted me with one living child, @coach_andy_bonner
The last photo was taken on Tuesday as we sat on the beach and a lady walked by and said, "would you like me to take your picture?" We said yes. Time with John is still one of my favorite things. He retired on Friday, before we left on Monday for this trip. There are so many unknowns but so much to be grateful for and so much to look forward to in the next stage.
I`m grateful for my clients that give me something to do every day Monday-Friday. @christiepurifoy @kriscamealy @bekah @whatlolalikes @abby_roadhome & to the wonderful team @parkermanagement-you guys all make my life so fun!
And I`m grateful for time at a place like this. Sand and water...not sure there is anything better!
Happy Anniversary Week to my love that is not on ANY social media channel!
She died 4 days after she was born. We buried her 4 days after she died.
Born 6-9-1992
Died 6-12-1992
Buried 6-16-1992
That would be 31 years ago today.
Last year, on the 30th anniversary of her birth we re-buried her on the grounds of St. Emma Monastery Greensburg, PA where her paternal grandparents are buried.
This year, today has been harder than Friday, June 9 the day she was born. Or Monday, June 12 the day she died.
I`ve cried more today than either of the other days.
I took a walk.
Got a pedicure.
Cried.
And chose a simple dinner of appetizers.
And I give myself permission to do nothing else.
I am thankful for the time we had her. For the experience and the things I learned about myself through the experience.
John and I are very conscious of what we say yes to and what we say no to. All because of Amy`s short life.
I`ve tried to use my experience to help others experiencing infant loss-or any loss. Some things are the same no matter the age of the deceased. Even if it is a loss thru miscarriage. I`ve experienced that too.
A loss is a loss.
Thank you to my sister and niece @sherrigd @tarahelise for letting us spend last weekend on your porch crying, laughing, and drinking wine and margaritas. I love you guys more than you know and I really needed that.
In what seems like the blink of an eye, it is 31 years later. Not a day goes by that I do not think of her.
My heart still hurts.
I cry at random times.
And I miss her. Still. 31 years later.
I grieve all the things that didn`t happen.
The relationships.
The life events.
Strangely though there are fewer tears today. Sometimes I think my tears are all gone. The well is dry.
Lack of tears does not mean lack of grief. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. So I accept my emotions today-whatever they may be.
If you know someone that has experienced a loss, don`t be afraid to tell them you remember. Let them know you care. Take a meal, send a text, write and snail mail a card. We want to know our loss is not forgotten.
I cried in church. Not because I was thinking about the events leading up to the crucifixion but because there was a little girl of about 5 or so sitting in front of me. She had the most gorgeous dark hair. With streaks of gold running through it. Natural streaks. Not the artificial colored streaks I pay more than I`m willing to share to get every few months.
As I observed her I thought about my own daughter. The one that died at 4 days old.
I thought of how she might be standing next to me this morning or next Sunday on Easter. Maybe she would have travelled to Charlotte to spend some time with her dad and me.
Grief is something that robs us of so much. It robs me of not just my daughter but it robs me of being the mom of a daughter.
I look at some of my closest friends, all mothers of daughters and I envy, yes ENVY!, the relationships they all have with their daughters. They may not agree with them on all things or see eye-to-eye with them but the daughters lead the charge to throw surprise 60th birthday parties for their parents or make sure that mom gets a Mother`s Day card, a birthday card, etc.
I think daughters are different than sons. Daughters are more sensitive than sons based on my observations as an outsider. I do not experience that sensitivity. And I grieve the fact that I am not the mother of a daughter.
The version of me before Amy`s death is totally different than the me that is here now.
If you want to read more about about my daughter, Amy, you can go to https://marybonner.net/?s=Amy and read more about my journey through infant loss and moving forward.
Adam McHugh`s book Blood From a Stone is a beautiful piece of writing about returning from the dead. I encourage you to check it out. You can find the book on Amazon or wherever books are sold. Find and follow him @adammchughwine You won`t be sorry.
"Grief is so agonizing not only because you have lost something, but you have lost someone, and that someone is the version of you that was alive before your loss." Blood From a Stone Adam McHugh Page 102
Every June I think I`m going to handle this better. Whatever better looks like - I don`t know. 30 years and I still cry at random times. And every June I fall apart.
She would have been 30 next week. Instead of whisking her off for a 30th birthday trip to Key West like we did for her brother @coach_andy_bonner or Niagara Falls like we did for his wife we will make another kind of trip.
There will be a mass next Saturday and we will stand at a grave site as we move her body from the small town where she was buried to a final resting place by her paternal grandparents on the beautiful grounds of St Emma Monastery in Greensburg, PA.
I look forward to the weekend and I dread it all at the same time.
Today I broke down and sobbed. Just like yesterday. And probably will tomorrow. But I remember that He catches my tears in a bottle Psalm 56:8
If I learned anything from this life experience, it is this: I can do hard things. But not of my own strength. Philippians 4:13
Thanks for reminding us of this GOOD NEWS. It goes so counter culture.
Fondly,
Glenda
Great review, Mary. I am downloading it to my Kindle today.
Holley got married in the Mildred Cooper chapel here in Arkansas. If you get a chance sometimes, revisit one of my weekend worships featuring this chapel–it is so beautiful.
Glenda, you are right. This IS counter culture!
Dianne, can you give me the link to the weekend worship post for Mildred Cooper Chapel? I checked the Weekend Worship page on your blog and couldn't find it.
Thanks for you comments ladies!
You don't have to enter me to win–I got a copy, too! I just wanted to drop by and say, "Didn't you do a nice job!" There were so many quotable pieces in Holley's book. I had such a hard time whittling down my list!
This book is perfect for the women I'm working with in a recovery program, as well as those who receive help thru http://facebook.com/brokenpeople
Thank you, Nancy! You kind words mean so much to me! I was so incredibly nervous that I wouldn't do a "good enough" job – kind of ironic, considering the book, don't you think?!? I prayed about it and this where He led me.
I'd like to be entered to win a copy of this book. I often feel like I have to be more or do more to be who I'm supposed to be. I know better, but still struggle.
Thanks!
Stacy
writingbyhart[at]gmail[dot]com
Hi Mary,
wonderful review of Holley's book…totally makes me want to read it…I had to smile at the quote about how if you're driven, you can't be led…so true…I am slowly learning to led and less driven…Blessings to you 🙂
I got the book a few days ago, and opened to a page somewhere in the 150s. What I read there was SUCH a big blessing to me! And it was just a random sentence on a random page! But we all know it wasn't random at all, right?
(No need to enter me in your amazingly generous drawing. Your book review was stellar!)
Think I need to read this one…
and so want to go to 'relevant' with a new name some day.
This books sounds really good. I love reading reviews about books! I'm a missionary in Tanzania and books help keep me fed spiritually. servingintz[at]gmail[dot]com
Sounds like a wonderful book that is just what I need to add to my library! Thanks for sharing a wonderful review; I love a good reccomendation. 🙂
Blessings and hugs,
Denise
Hi Mary,
I knew I wanted to read this book, and your great review makes me want to read it even more! I host online studies on my blog and I've been thinking "You're Already Amazing" might be the book we read this fall.
Thanks for commenting on my blog today, that's how I found you. 🙂
Blessings,
Laura
I knew I forgot something in my comment – my email! laurajrath@gmail.com. Thanks!
I shared on Twitter 🙂
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Shared on my Laura Rath ~ Journey in Faith FB page. laurajrath@gmail.com
Thank you!
Hi Mary,
I found you via Laura Rath's tweet and am so glad I did! I've read so many reviews of this book — I know I want to read it — and I must say I really enjoyed your review! loved the quotes you chose and the thought you put into it.
So fun to "meet" you and thank you thank you for the wonderful chance to win a book so I can start reading right away! 🙂
All for Him,
Nikki
simplystriving (at) gmail (dot) com
I tweeted @ Simplystriving
Thanks again for the chance to win! 🙂 What a wonderful first giveaway!!
All for Him,
Nikki
This looks like another GREAT read … and my pile of reads is getting a bit thin … sonyamacdesigns@yahoo.com
Found you through incourage, can't wait to read this book and would love to win!!
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i would love to have this book to share with the women at my church (after i read it!)
kendalprivette@yahoo.com
this seems to speak to where God has me right now…thinking it could be helpful…blessings~
This sounds like a wonderful book! I can't wait to read it!
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I finally got to sit down and start reading it and I'm flying through it! It's amazing!!! So excited 🙂 Such a blessing to receive this book!
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