Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.”
Nehemiah 8:10b
202. the opportunity to share thankfulness.
203. a beautiful sunrise.
204. visit with aunt, uncle & cousins – at the beach.
205. peaceful sleep.
206. work accomplished.
207. strength to say “no” at appropriate time.
208. minor traffic on busy highway.
209. making time for exercise.
210. phone calls.
211. learning new things.
212. enrolling for fall class.
213. making a “to do” list for the week.
214. letting go of stuff.
215. learning from friends.
216. learning more about Blogger.
217. learning more about fonts.
218. learning more about backgrounds.
Joining the Gratitude Community at Ann’s place has been a rewarding experience. Every Monday, I share some of my list. Do you know the difference that can be made in an attitude when one focuses on the positive – what is right with life, so to speak – instead of focusing on the negative – what is wrong with life? For me it is hugh. Not that I don’t sometimes get bogged down with what I perceive to be wrong, but being involved with the community does help focus more on the positive. You might want to check it out.
I know I am not the only blogger that was using a background from a popular supplier of free backgrounds. I learned so much trying to change my background last week. I found one on another supplier of free backgrounds, used if for several days only to have a similar notice pop up yesterday that the background I was using would disappear on August 1st! Yikes!! BUT…this time changing the background went very smoothly. I also learned about changing fonts and using them in my blog. They are supposed to be visible to readers, even if the reader does not have the fonts installed on their computer. Can you see them?
I got a lot accomplished around my house last week…this week my project is my closet and drawers. I think I have a lot of clothing and stuff that I have not worn or used in a long time that I need to take to the thrift shop.
What is on your “to do” list this week? What are you thankful for???
Great list! Learning – so grateful for the ability to stretch my brain. Whether it is trying to figure out blogger (ugh) or getting prepared for a new school year. Thanks for your prayers.
Mary I join you in gratitude for being able to let go and for strength to say know when appropriate. Thank you so much for your prayers and for your encouragement to me these past few weeks as we move closer to the big date. You are dear! I am inspired by your post and look forward to what you have to say. blessings ~a
Love your background and fonts, Mary! I am thankful when I figure out something new for the blog, too 🙂 From your list, I can see you had a blessed week. I'm so glad!
peaceful sleep–as we get older it seems that a good night's rest is something from the past–I slept almost all night, night before last and felt like a new person–last night I was awake until 4 and got up at 7–that has been my norm way too much of the time lately–oh well, I'm thankful for the three hours–
But you have my curiosity up about the fonts. Can you tell us where you found them. And yes, I have found the old quote that states, "Necessity is the mother of invention" is certainly true with figuring out a blog. Can't believe what all I've learned since I first started–still have a very long way to go but it is fun and quite addictive also. I love figuring out the HTML–it's kinda like solving a mystery.
I love your blog design! It is so summery and fresh. I have been so blessed by the gratitude community too! It has helped me to focus on the positive in life and be thankful and mindful of every small blessing. Details I may not have noticed before are now something I take joy in. Blessings ~ suzy
In what seemed like the blink of an eye, those young 20 somethings were married for 41 years.
The second photo was taken last year on our 40th anniversary. I didn`t post it because I didn`t like the way my legs looked. Something happened in the last year and I`m reminded that those legs have carried me for 62 years (when the photo was taken). Carried me through 3 pregnancies that gifted me with one living child, @coach_andy_bonner
The last photo was taken on Tuesday as we sat on the beach and a lady walked by and said, "would you like me to take your picture?" We said yes. Time with John is still one of my favorite things. He retired on Friday, before we left on Monday for this trip. There are so many unknowns but so much to be grateful for and so much to look forward to in the next stage.
I`m grateful for my clients that give me something to do every day Monday-Friday. @christiepurifoy @kriscamealy @bekah @whatlolalikes @abby_roadhome & to the wonderful team @parkermanagement-you guys all make my life so fun!
And I`m grateful for time at a place like this. Sand and water...not sure there is anything better!
Happy Anniversary Week to my love that is not on ANY social media channel!
She died 4 days after she was born. We buried her 4 days after she died.
Born 6-9-1992
Died 6-12-1992
Buried 6-16-1992
That would be 31 years ago today.
Last year, on the 30th anniversary of her birth we re-buried her on the grounds of St. Emma Monastery Greensburg, PA where her paternal grandparents are buried.
This year, today has been harder than Friday, June 9 the day she was born. Or Monday, June 12 the day she died.
I`ve cried more today than either of the other days.
I took a walk.
Got a pedicure.
Cried.
And chose a simple dinner of appetizers.
And I give myself permission to do nothing else.
I am thankful for the time we had her. For the experience and the things I learned about myself through the experience.
John and I are very conscious of what we say yes to and what we say no to. All because of Amy`s short life.
I`ve tried to use my experience to help others experiencing infant loss-or any loss. Some things are the same no matter the age of the deceased. Even if it is a loss thru miscarriage. I`ve experienced that too.
A loss is a loss.
Thank you to my sister and niece @sherrigd @tarahelise for letting us spend last weekend on your porch crying, laughing, and drinking wine and margaritas. I love you guys more than you know and I really needed that.
In what seems like the blink of an eye, it is 31 years later. Not a day goes by that I do not think of her.
My heart still hurts.
I cry at random times.
And I miss her. Still. 31 years later.
I grieve all the things that didn`t happen.
The relationships.
The life events.
Strangely though there are fewer tears today. Sometimes I think my tears are all gone. The well is dry.
Lack of tears does not mean lack of grief. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. So I accept my emotions today-whatever they may be.
If you know someone that has experienced a loss, don`t be afraid to tell them you remember. Let them know you care. Take a meal, send a text, write and snail mail a card. We want to know our loss is not forgotten.
I cried in church. Not because I was thinking about the events leading up to the crucifixion but because there was a little girl of about 5 or so sitting in front of me. She had the most gorgeous dark hair. With streaks of gold running through it. Natural streaks. Not the artificial colored streaks I pay more than I`m willing to share to get every few months.
As I observed her I thought about my own daughter. The one that died at 4 days old.
I thought of how she might be standing next to me this morning or next Sunday on Easter. Maybe she would have travelled to Charlotte to spend some time with her dad and me.
Grief is something that robs us of so much. It robs me of not just my daughter but it robs me of being the mom of a daughter.
I look at some of my closest friends, all mothers of daughters and I envy, yes ENVY!, the relationships they all have with their daughters. They may not agree with them on all things or see eye-to-eye with them but the daughters lead the charge to throw surprise 60th birthday parties for their parents or make sure that mom gets a Mother`s Day card, a birthday card, etc.
I think daughters are different than sons. Daughters are more sensitive than sons based on my observations as an outsider. I do not experience that sensitivity. And I grieve the fact that I am not the mother of a daughter.
The version of me before Amy`s death is totally different than the me that is here now.
If you want to read more about about my daughter, Amy, you can go to https://marybonner.net/?s=Amy and read more about my journey through infant loss and moving forward.
Adam McHugh`s book Blood From a Stone is a beautiful piece of writing about returning from the dead. I encourage you to check it out. You can find the book on Amazon or wherever books are sold. Find and follow him @adammchughwine You won`t be sorry.
"Grief is so agonizing not only because you have lost something, but you have lost someone, and that someone is the version of you that was alive before your loss." Blood From a Stone Adam McHugh Page 102
Every June I think I`m going to handle this better. Whatever better looks like - I don`t know. 30 years and I still cry at random times. And every June I fall apart.
She would have been 30 next week. Instead of whisking her off for a 30th birthday trip to Key West like we did for her brother @coach_andy_bonner or Niagara Falls like we did for his wife we will make another kind of trip.
There will be a mass next Saturday and we will stand at a grave site as we move her body from the small town where she was buried to a final resting place by her paternal grandparents on the beautiful grounds of St Emma Monastery in Greensburg, PA.
I look forward to the weekend and I dread it all at the same time.
Today I broke down and sobbed. Just like yesterday. And probably will tomorrow. But I remember that He catches my tears in a bottle Psalm 56:8
If I learned anything from this life experience, it is this: I can do hard things. But not of my own strength. Philippians 4:13
The strength to say no, peaceful sleep, work accomplished . . .giving thanks with you! What a great list!
we had a productive weekend too! He is so good to help us!
I'm thankful for getting to spend some time with my girls.
yes, we can see the fonts. and good job with the background business. i know, it can be frustrating but satisfying when it actually works!
blessings to you this week,
megan
Great list! Learning – so grateful for the ability to stretch my brain. Whether it is trying to figure out blogger (ugh) or getting prepared for a new school year. Thanks for your prayers.
i love fonts (i'm an english nerd!!)
and the grace to say no… that is HUGE!!
productive, and rest-ful, what a good list of things to praise him for!
I got the same message on my background so I played around with mine this morning. I am thankful for cooler mornings and air conditioner!!
Mary
I join you in gratitude for being able to let go and for strength to say know when appropriate.
Thank you so much for your prayers and for your encouragement to me these past few weeks as we move closer to the big date. You are dear! I am inspired by your post and look forward to what you have to say.
blessings
~a
Love your background and fonts, Mary! I am thankful when I figure out something new for the blog, too 🙂 From your list, I can see you had a blessed week. I'm so glad!
Beautiful background!
I love #205 and #207. Thankful right alongside you. Splendid list.
Great list, Mary–some that really made me think–
peaceful sleep–as we get older it seems that a good night's rest is something from the past–I slept almost all night, night before last and felt like a new person–last night I was awake until 4 and got up at 7–that has been my norm way too much of the time lately–oh well, I'm thankful for the three hours–
But you have my curiosity up about the fonts. Can you tell us where you found them. And yes, I have found the old quote that states, "Necessity is the mother of invention" is certainly true with figuring out a blog. Can't believe what all I've learned since I first started–still have a very long way to go but it is fun and quite addictive also. I love figuring out the HTML–it's kinda like solving a mystery.
Loved all your thanksgivings!
Love you,
D.
I love your blog design! It is so summery and fresh.
I have been so blessed by the gratitude community too! It has helped me to focus on the positive in life and be thankful and mindful of every small blessing.
Details I may not have noticed before are now something I take joy in.
Blessings ~
suzy