“I have a good husband, but I don’t appreciate him enough.” Alice* uttered these words while hanging out with a group of women from work.
We were talking about husbands. Sally* is in the process of getting a divorce and Carol* had just said what a wonderful husband she had. Carol went on to say that she had been fortunate enough to have two good husbands because she had been widowed 20 years earlier at age 33.
Then I said, “I know I have a good husband. And if I ever forget Sally* is quick to remind me!”
Sally said, “Mary’s husband is kind, has a good sense of humor, is considerate, nice…” She continued rattling off my husband’s good qualities.
That is when Alice said what she said…”I have a good husband, but I don’t appreciate him enough.”
I know Sally is right,
but I wonder if I fall into the same category as Alice. I know I do
not tell my husband that I appreciate his good qualities. I don’t tell him thank you for being a caring husband. For being a godly example to our son. For always putting me and others before himself. I don’t tell him thank you…at least not as often as I should.
We have been married for 33 and there is no one that I would rather spend time with than my husband. Truly. We enjoy good conversation, a nice bottle of wine, a walk in the neighborhood, sitting outside enjoying the weather. We love to have a entertain whether it is a small dinner party with a total of 4 people or a party for 40…it doesn’t matter what we do, we just enjoy being together. (And he is great a cooking and cleaning up after the party!)
Still…I don’t say thank you for all he does. For all he IS.
It is easy to get in a rut. Easy to slip into “auto” mode where we go through our days without really talking. Without doing more than a peck on the lips and an “I love you” in passing. I no longer have kids at home and it happens to me. I can only imagine what happens in marriages where there are kids, soccer practice, dance lessons, school activities, piano lessons, church activities…the list goes on.
John and I try to make each other a priority, but sometimes we fail.
A few years ago I read Praying God’s Word for Your Husband by Kathi Lipp. I even did a book study on it with some women from my church. All of the women that read the book and participated said it made a difference. Maybe I need to read it again.